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Kevin Metz, Psy.D.

Dr. Kevin MetzDr. Kevin Metz is a licensed psychologist; he has a doctoral and master’s degree in Clinical Psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology in San Francisco, as well as a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from UNC-Chapel Hill. Dr. Metz provides individual, family, and couples therapy, in addition to psychological assessment services, for people struggling with a wide array of challenges in their lives. He has experience working in a broad variety of settings, including mental health clinics, outreach services within the community, and university counseling centers.

INTERVENTION STYLE:
Dr. Metz’s approach to psychotherapy is that of a humanist; he believes the goal of effective therapy is the facilitation of the client’s sense of realizing their unique potential. Thus, Dr. Metz attempts to allow his clients a good deal of supported autonomy and responsibility in their work together. Within that framework, however, he may utilize many precise techniques, including talk therapy, journaling, meditation, role-play, dream work, guided imagery, education including recommended readings, and other methods. Dr. Metz’s approach is very client-centered and he works with different people in different ways. Therefore, he prioritizes taking the time to learn about the people he works with so the therapy can be grounded in how they see themselves, their journey, and their values.

Dr. Metz was trained in and implements an intentional integrative therapeutic style, and thus incorporates cognitive-behavioral, psychodynamic, and Gestalt methods in his therapy. His work and personal life are also deeply informed by mindfulness and meditation techniques, and he utilizes these techniques with most clients. In addition, Dr. Metz recognizes and embraces the profound experience of a therapeutic relationship, and understands that a fully accepting and non-judgmental relationship can in and of itself be a precipitant to change. Thus, his work typically includes a curious exploration of what occurs in the therapeutic room.

Dr. Metz has also been trained in depth in mindfulness- and acceptance- based theories and techniques, and has extensive experience incorporating these concepts into his psychotherapy. This training has included week-long experiential seminars based on Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy and Insight Dialogue, in addition to others. He has facilitated meditation groups, led meditation-oriented outreach presentations to the community, and studied a number of different perspectives on mindfulness. His dissertation research explored the relationship between authenticity and mindfulness, results supporting there is a relationship between the two.

EXPERTISE WITH ADULTS: Dr. Metz has experience providing brief, solution-focused therapy addressing specific symptoms, in addition to experience providing long-term psychotherapy oriented towards characterological change. His clinical experience includes particular interests and expertise in mood challenges, the process of adolescent and young adult individuation, couples therapy, and the journey of self-actualization. He has worked with adult clients confronted with a multitude of challenges including anxiety (both specific and generalized), depression, bi-polar disorder, substance abuse, relationship difficulties, trauma, phobias, identity development, self-esteem issues, gender transitions, disordered eating, sexual performance difficulties, stress management, parenting challenges, grief work, and an array of other issues.

Dr. Metz has extensive experience addressing concerns related to substance use and abuse. Some of these concerns include overuse, self-medication, effects of use on relationships, the loss of healthy coping skills, consequences on academic/work performance, and relapse prevention. He believes substance use is an issue that can permeate many aspects of one’s daily life, and comprehensive treatment explores all these areas.

EXPERTISE WITH CHILDREN & FAMILIES: Dr. Metz has a particular interest in working with children and their families. His clients report that he is able to make them feel comfortable and he is able to connect with them on a deep level, and that ability extends to his work with children. His clinical work has addressed many issues relevant to children and adolescents coming of age in today’s society including childhood anxiety and depression, trauma, academic performance issues, challenges related to the autistic spectrum, emotional regulation, issues arising from divorce, social skills, disordered eating, and the process of adolescent individuation.

Dr. Metz believes that comprehensive family care is typically a key component to thorough, lasting work with children and adolescents. Thus, he views the client’s symptoms in terms of the familial system and may make recommendations regarding home life. He prioritizes making a thorough assessment of the role the reported symptom plays within the family system, and adjusting his work accordingly.

PERSONAL: Dr. Metz is a member of the American Psychological Association. He spends his time outside the office milling about the Triangle with his family, friends, and pug Sebastian. He enjoys kayaking local rivers, camping at state parks, exploring local golf courses, in meditation, and playing the guitar. He has been fortunate to have travelled extensively around the world, and those experiences inform his personal and professional life.

Finding Happiness in Tragedy

December 17, 2012

…Have to admit, it’s quite challenging finding something to write about given the recent news (more shootings). However, I saw a quote from the always insightful Mr. Rogers. The message was that even in tragic situations there are people who are the Helpers When something bad happens, try to find the people who are Helping. There are always Helpers. In such a tragic & sad time for families everywhere, it’s important to be able to find those who are trying to make the situation better, those who sacrifice for the sake of others, and small things that all of us can do to contribute to happiness for others.

 

 

A Good Quote About Happiness

December 4, 2012

“Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.”…Quote from Joseph Addison

What is your “do” , “love”, or “hope” today??

Having A Plan Is Happiness

November 26, 2012

I am the first to admit that I love having a plan. And the opposite is quite true – not having a plan makes me quite nervous & anxious. I realize that for many people a full schedule or long to-do list creates anxiety rather than diminishes it…how can I get all this done? how did my schedule get so full? I can’t split myself in half! Etc. But for me, having a daily to-do list I check off makes me feel like I am accomplishing something. In fact, it’s the only way I can really get things done. I have learned that I am really good at getting things done – personally & professionally – when I set goals and making a list is a small version of a daily plan. It makes me feel more organized and strategic, if only for a little while.

I’m sure there are things in your life that are beneficial for you (like a schedule) but seem very unsettling to others. What is it that makes you feel more organized or excited about your day?

 

7 Ways To Get More Sex

Dissatisfaction with the amount of sex in their relationship is a common problem that comes up in marriages and other long term intimate relationships. It is a commonly seen problem in couple’s therapy, probably because when there are problems in the relationship, amount of sex tends to decline. However, it’s important to point out lack of sex does not always mean there are other problems in the relationship. Couples who are quite happy with each other and all other aspects of their relationship can also struggle with this problem.

This dissatisfaction impacts the rest of the marriage or relationship. It always takes a toll in some sense. In couples who are happy with the rest of their relationship, it can still diminish their level of closeness, and they might become moody or slightly depressed. In couples who it is one of many problems, it can make the relationship seem very unsatisfactory and hopeless. When sex is good in a relationship, we like and tolerate each other a bit more because that sexual happiness spills over into the relationship. Likewise without it we can be less satisfied and more easily annoyed by our partners.

There is no magic number that can tell couples how often they should be having sex in order to be “normal.” Read More→

Something About A Baby Giraffe

November 19, 2012

During a visit to the NC Zoo, I had the excitement and thrills of a kid seeing new & different animals for the first time. I know what giraffes, elephants, zebras, etc look like; I’ve seen them before in person but it had been quite a while since the last time. There was something different about this visit that made me look at the unique colors, markings, and expressions with a sense of awe & appreciation of how cool this planet is. Animals with stripes…tiny deadly blue frogs…bright pink birds with legs the size of a pencil…running ostriches (which is quite a funny site to see!). But my favorite were the baby animals. I saw two – a baby giraffe about 6 months old with his family and a baby gorilla about 4 months old with its mother. Absolutely stunning.

 

The End of Political Ads Is Happiness

November 5, 2012

Regardless of your political stripe, I think we can all agree that the political ads have been going on for way too long and bring out the worst in most candidates. Even though the adds will go away in just a few minutes, I realize there will be plenty of “stuff” left to discuss no matter who wins – so the debates will hardly be finished or actually go away. And if you are on Facebook, Twitter, or other social media outlets you can probably appreciate it when I say it will be nice to not have to see all my “friend’s” political rants & simplistic fixes to all the world’s problems. So I am really glad that the political season of negative campaigning is coming to an end – at least this phase of it anyway!

Is anyone else also glad that it will be over soon??

 

Getting Out Of The House In The Morning Makes Me Happy

October 29, 2012

My title – Getting out of the house in the morning – will resonate with you if you have young children. My young children are 2 & 3 years old. (the oldest is nearly 4) Our mornings consist of drama and chaos, despite the old “we’re going to have a better morning tomorrow” silliness that we say on a regular basis. Starting our mornings even a few minutes later than normal will make for huge challenges. However, regardless of the level of chaos, it all ends quite abruptly when the kids are buckled in the car. It’s like a switch has been flipped & all is well in the world again. I have no idea what “it” is that contributes to this dramatic change, but it happens every single morning – without fail. So for that reason I am so VERY happy to get out of the house every morning…at least Monday through Friday!

If you have experienced the morning chaos, what are your suggestions for minimizing that pattern?

 

Tiger & Elin Woods Modeled Amicable Divorce

Collaborative Divorce: The Full Team Interdisciplinary Model, now available in the Triangle

Fox News ran a story when Tiger Woods divorced describing the collaborative divorce process used by Tiger and Elin Woods. The interviewer wondered skeptically how spouses experiencing the level of anger and emotional pain that often comes with divorce can have a ‘collaborative’ divorce, especially with difficult issues such as infidelity. But as national expert Dr. Ellie Izzo explained, that is exactly why this process works so much better than traditional adversarial divorce, as a team of compassionate experts help spouses navigate those painful emotions and come up with a settlement acceptable to both. Also importantly, whereas in adversarial divorce the children’s emotions and experience can unintentionally become collateral damage in the fight, this process protects the children from extreme emotional fallout by keeping the divorce as low conflict as possible. Read More→

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