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Hobbies and Happiness

Hobbies are defined as activities done regularly in one’s leisure time for pleasure. In other words, a hobby is something you opt to engage in because you find it to be enjoyable – and not because someone told you to do it. When we are enjoying ourselves, our emotional well-being is improved while our stress levels are decreased. So spend some time this week engaged in your favorite hobby or starting a new one. If you are struggling coming up with a new hobby, start by asking yourself if you want it to involve being indoors or outdoors. Here are some ideas to get you started: cooking, drawing, reading, photography, sculpting, crocheting, video gaming, fishing, gardening, kayaking, hiking, and horseback riding.

Reading and Happiness

While just the word reading may bring up negative memories about school for some, it can have a whole new meaning when we are in control of the material. So take a moment to reflect on a time where you looked up from a book and thought to yourself, “Whoa! Did that much time really just pass by?!” or “Wow! That was some great insight!” When we find a book that captures our interest, we transport to that author’s world which leads us to learn new ideas, see new viewpoints, and connect with characters along the way. As a result, it may come as no surprise that books are beginning to be “prescribed” by doctors to help alleviate symptoms of depression and anxiety. So re-read that favorite book or start that book you have been putting off; And I wish you safe travels on whatever journey you decide take!

Valentine’s Day and Happiness

Candy hearts and roses and chocolate, oh my! Every year people scramble to come up with ways to demonstrate their love for the someone special in their lives. Before diving into that this year, allot some of your time to loving yourself. While sweets, flowers, and candle light dinners are some of many ways that come to mind when planning Valentine’s Day, what comes to mind when thinking of ways to love yourself? Take a moment to consider this further to come up with a plan and then follow through with it! The possibilities are endless ranging from a spa day to watching your favorite movie with a box of chocolates in hand.

Meal Planning and Happiness

Do you ever come home and feel instantly irritated because you have no idea what you are going to make for dinner? Or do you ever wake up and stare at your lunch bag for what feels like eternity because you have no idea what to take to work? For those of us who have experienced either (or both) of these scenarios know how frustrating it can be. Perhaps it is time to consider meal planning! Here’s why… Planning meals ahead can save time. Don’t believe it? Take a moment to consider how much time you roughly spend a week on just thinking about what to make for a meal after a long day of work? Or how much of your morning is taken up while you contemplate your lunch. Once you do decide what to eat, do you find yourself making quick runs to the supermarket because you are missing a key ingredient? Meal planning can help. Spending 20-30 minutes a week to plan your meals can reduce the time wasted daily, as well as eliminate the time it takes to make the quick runs to the grocery store. Another major benefit of meal planning is healthy eating. When we take time to plan ahead, we can consider things like a balanced, healthy, fulfilling diet. Another huge benefit is you save money. By planning ahead, you may be able to identify common ingredients that are cheaper to buy in larger quantities. Also, it can reduce the likelihood of the excuse, “I have nothing to eat today. I’ll just eat out.” Overall, it reduces stress, as you no longer have to deal with the worry of what to make on a daily basis.

Is your child ready for a cellphone?

Q: My son is 10 years old and will be entering middle school in the fall. He keeps asking me for a cell phone, claiming that all his friends at school already have one. Is my son too young for a cell phone or am I too afraid to let him grow up?

A: As technology has advanced and become entrenched in every aspect of life, the debate on when children should be able to use a cell phone has grown. It is important to remember that each child is different and there are a multitude of factors that can influence if your child is ready for a cellphone.

Responsibility should be considered, and is perhaps the most important factor. Children must demonstrate that they are responsible enough to have a phone. Children who constantly lose things or disrespect property might not be mature enough yet for a cell phone. If a child often loses their cell phone and gets consequences for such, the phone can turn into a negative experience for all. If a child is generally able to take care of their things well, that is a good sign they might be ready for a phone. Proper usage is also a responsibility, that is, the ability to either self-regulate usage (such as doing homework versus using their phone) and/or the ability to follow the parent’s rules about when and how the phone can be used.

Children are becoming more and more tech savvy, so it is imperative parents understand the capabilities of their child’s cell phone and consider taking steps to limit usage. Depending on the needs of you and your child, restricting data access can be beneficial (and cost effective). Cell phone carriers can provide advice about plans that will work best for you and your child. Many phones also include child-mode features that limit usage to basic functions. Once the phone has been properly set up, it is crucial that you talk to your child about the privileges that come with using a cell phone. Restricting your child’s cell phone usage to certain times (e.g., after schoolwork is finished) can promote positive behavior. Remember that limits on cell phone use will vary according to your child’s age. For instance, taking away a teenager’s phone may be seen as a sign of mistrust and could result in hostility. In addition, make sure that you model the expectations you set up for your child by putting your phone away during meal times or while driving.

Age and grade relate to some practical considerations. Typically, when children enter middle school they become more involved with extra-curricular activities. A cell phone gives your child the ability to stay in touch with you regarding their whereabouts, schedule (e.g., soccer practice is cancelled) or call you in the event of an emergency. Your child having a phone can thus also be convenient for the parents as the child is easier to reach and coordinate with. The biggest takeaway? Only you know your child well enough to know if they are ready for the responsibilities that accompany owning a cell phone. If you determine your child is not quite ready, and they are asking for a phone, set some concrete markers they can strive for that would indicate to you they are ready for a phone.

Art and Happiness

Allowing our creativity to flow through art has a variety of benefits. Research has demonstrated that art projects have led to a reduction in stress levels, an increase in our resiliency, improvement in well-being, decrease in depression, and an increase in one’s ability to cope with chronic illness. So what is it about art that makes it so helpful? Art allows us to bring our feelings to life. By being mindful of these emotions and acknowledging their presence as we reflect them in our art, we are in a better position to process what we are feeling. It also allows us to get into a rhythm or flow of things when we are concentrated on what we are creating. For the period of time you are focused on your artwork, other thoughts and feelings may take the back burner allowing you to be immersed in the moment. Also, it just feels good overall to create something. For those of us that feel as though there is not one artistic bone in our bodies, there are options! Consider acquiring an adult coloring book with a theme that interests you whether it be animals, nature, architecture, etc. Similarly, another option is paint by numbers. Both of these alternatives still allow your creativity to flow as you bring the black and white image to life with whatever colors you choose.

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Rearranging Your Living Space

Feng shui was developed over 3,000 years ago in China and focuses on balancing the energies in any given space. While learning about feng shui and truly incorporating the teachings would be wonderful, it may not be ideal for most of us from a time and financial perspective. But there are small, more attainable changes stemming from feng shui that may be easier for us to incorporate to help improve our happiness. For instance, add shelves. If your living room, bedroom, workspace, etc. is too cluttered or messy, anxiety levels may increase. Add some shelves to organize these areas. If shelves do not seem to really do the trick, then spring cleaning might just need to come earlier this year. Cleaning may seem very time and energy consuming, but it may be just what you need. Plus, you would be ahead of the spring cleaning game. Another helpful tip is to have adequate lighting by allowing as much natural light as possible in or consider using lamps, light fixtures, etc. This is said to influence the energy of your home.

Yoga and Happiness

While our previous post focused on exercise in general and its impact on happiness, lets focus specifically on yoga, as there has been a rapid rise of people practicing yoga in recent years.Research shows the brain’s gamma aminobutyric (GABA) levels spike even after a single class of yoga. Simply put, one yoga class can contribute to improving your mood! For those who opt to practice yoga long term further benefit, as yoga reduces fatigue, anxiety, anger– all of which impact our happiness in a negative way. For those who find the idea of working out just plain boring, perhaps yoga with a cute goat may be just what you need!

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