Reclaiming Therapeutic Terminology: Clinical Versus Social Definitions

The average licensed master’s level social worker, professional counselor, or master’s level psychologist has been in school for at least six to seven years and possesses at least a bachelor’s and master’s degree, and completed supervised work experience. Not to mention they have prepared for, taken, and successfully passed the licensure exams in the state in which they reside. The average doctoral level licensed psychologist has gone to school for at least nine to eleven years, completed several unpaid and paid internship experiences and supervised clinical practice after graduation to become licensed, and passed the licensure exams. Professionals are trained to read, understand, and correctly interpret clinical scientifically valid research for the purpose of supporting interventions to effectively help clients and pass on knowledge.

Nearly four in ten adults in the population report symptoms of persistent anxiety and depression regularly and the number of children, teens, and adults who experience lasting stress, loneliness, and mental health symptoms is on the rise. Over twenty percent of the population takes some sort of prescription medication for a mental health treatment and only ten percent have sought or received counseling. This is compounded by economic hardships, financial instability, discrimination, inequality, and lack of access to clinical care. Exacerbated by the pandemic and political unrest, over ninety percent of the population feels that the United States and the world as a whole is in the midst of a mental health and overall identity crisis. Additionally, the mental health and related medical fields face tremendous rates of compassion fatigue, burnout, high turnover, and vicarious trauma that impact providers and lead to a high demand for care and a large clinician shortage.

As a result, people often turn to self-help books or gurus, social media professionals, and pop psychology that has permeated the zeitgeist and added therapeutic terms to the social lexicon. This creates both a dark storm cloud and a silver lining in the psychological field for professionals to reconcile within ourselves. The silver lining is we are destigmatizing mental health and openly talking about how it is okay not to be okay. People are asking for help and attempting vulnerability, and this promotes connection and reduces loneliness. However, the downside of this is that people are misusing research, therapeutic terms, or lack the understanding of complex psychological diagnoses. Professionals study for years to just begin to understand the complex human experience. Psychology diagnoses are complicated and nuanced and cannot be learned in one person’s lived experiences, self-help books, or social media TikTok posts. Terms like gaslighting, narcissistic, bipolar, and boundaries are commonly used to describe past relationships that ended. If this is in an attempt to understand, that can be great, but it is commonly used to justify or excuse your one’s choices while blaming another person.
Throwing around nuanced terms without accountability and self-reflection trivializes the genuine experiences of those people who have suffered from a mental health diagnosis. This has been a reoccurring problem since people began to use terms like OCD, ADHD, “crazy or schizo” to describe the quirky habits of themselves or another individual. Ask anyone who can assess for, diagnosis, treat, or has these conditions, and they will explain it can feel demeaning or disrespectful to throw around terms with very little understanding for people who genuinely see these disorders daily in their therapy room or real life. Most people are not OCD, ADHD, autistic, or narcissists, and using these words casually in a social context as if you know that is an accurate diagnosis can be problematic. Blog posts with the title like ‘ten traits of all people with ADHD’ have been found to rarely be scientifically supported and not every person can fit into a neat little box, not to mention these are not peer reviewed scientific studies. Even experienced clinicians will consult with colleagues and other professionals about diagnoses, assessments, and interventions to ensure we are diagnosing clients correctly, because of the associations with these labels.

And even if referring to yourself and not to others, consider not using words like “narcissistic,” or telling people you “disassociate” or are “OCD” or “so ADHD” – realize having heard these terms on social media or read about them, and even if you may see some similarities in your life, that is not the same as having a professional diagnosis. These are real symptoms and diagnoses, and the people that have honestly experienced this firsthand may feel more and more isolated and misunderstood when the public uses words like this casually.

Despite some of the professionals on social media or television being actual professionals or published authors with licensure, recognize not everyone is a licensed professional or actually working in the field they are proselytizing about to the masses. Always fact check things you hear and engage in critical thinking, and if you have to process complex personality nuances or past relationship baggage then work with a professional who can help you reconcile your perspective and self-reflect to prevent unhealthy patterns from continuing. This year, set an intention to choose your words carefully and instead of labeling or ‘armchair diagnosing’ a person or a problem or yourself, choose instead to recognize that doing that can ostracize and demean not only the mental health field, but the people that genuinely struggle with these real occurrences, and can limit the meaning of these psychological terms, minimizing the legitimate impact. Remember words are powerful, and it is important to use psychological words correctly and carefully, to support all who live with mental health diagnoses.

Building and Maintaining Resilience

Resilience is the ability to bounce back and thrive despite life’s challenges. It takes constant time and effort to build and maintain. Developing resilience is like building a solid foundation for happiness and well-being. You can’t always control life’s outcomes and difficulties. And resilience is a great skill to have during those hard times! We know resilience is essential, but how do we develop it? Here are some strategies: 

  1. Cultivate a Positive Mindset
  2. Build a Supportive Network
  3. Practice Self-Compassion
  4. Develop Healthy Coping Mechanisms
  5. Set Realistic Goals
  6. Embrace Change
  7. Learn from Adversity
  8. Maintain a Healthy Lifestyle

Resilience is a muscle that strengthens with practice. As you incorporate these strategies into your daily life, remember that setbacks are not the end of the road but rather stepping stones toward a more resilient future. You won’t have a perfect mindset right out of the gate. Give yourself grace and embrace optimism!

Laughter in the Chaos of Parenthood

Being a parent can be overwhelming and stressful. Parenthood is a rollercoaster of joy, chaos, and the unexpected. Sometimes, it gets difficult to remember the humor in parenting. So, let’s share a laugh together with some funny and relatable parenting stories that are sure to brighten your day!

  1. Bedtime Negotiations:
    1. Bedtime is a battlefield where pint-sized negotiators flex their negotiation skills. From requests for “just one more story” to the sudden need for a glass of water, bedtime becomes a strategic operation that often leaves parents chuckling at the creativity of their little bedtime diplomats.
  2. Toddler Fashion Statements:
    1. When it comes to fashion, toddlers have an unparalleled sense of style. Mismatched shoes, superhero capes with princess dresses – every day is a runway show. As parents, we learn to appreciate the uniqueness of their fashion choices, even if it means the occasional embarrassment at the grocery store.
  3. Accidental “Mom Code” Language:
    1. Parents develop a unique language, an unspoken “mom code.” From discussing bodily functions in public without batting an eye to using baby wipes for everything, this code unites parents worldwide. The camaraderie in sharing these quirky habits is a source of endless amusement.

Parenting is an adventure filled with laughter, and finding humor in the daily chaos can be a therapeutic remedy for stress. So, embrace the messiness! Remember: you’re not alone in this wild and wonderful journey.

The Blissful Pursuit of Hobbies

Life can be a busy journey filled with responsibilities. But, still, amidst the craziness, it’s essential to carve out time for activities that bring personal fulfillment. Hobbies are not just pastimes; they are gateways to happiness, self-discovery, and a sense of accomplishment. Hobbies have a unique way of connecting us to the present moment and infusing our lives with positivity. The pursuit of hobbies goes beyond mere enjoyment; it is a form of self-care. When we immerse ourselves in activities we love, we create a space for relaxation, creativity, and personal growth. This, in turn, contributes to improved mental well-being, fostering a sense of balance and fulfillment.

Think about things that you’ve done for fun across your life. Jot some hobbies down (even ones that you might’ve had in high school!). Write some things down that you’ve always been curious about, but just haven’t picked up. Anything to get some ideas on paper. If you don’t know where to start, no worries! Here are 10 hobbies to think through: 

  1. Photography
  2. Gardening
  3. Cooking or Baking
  4. Reading
  5. Drawing or Painting
  6. Hiking or Nature Walks
  7. Learning a Musical Instrument
  8. Yoga or Meditation
  9. DIY Crafts
  10. Board Games or Puzzles

After you have your list, I encourage you to try one or two (maybe even more!). Start small if you’re overwhelmed. Maybe just watch some videos online. You might even be able to find a class nearby so you don’t have to buy any materials yourself! Remember, the key is to choose a hobby that resonates with your interests and brings you joy. Whether it’s a solo pursuit or a shared activity, exploring new hobbies can add vibrancy and fulfillment to your life. Happy hobby-ing!

The Joy of Food

Food has a magical way of bringing people together, creating memories, and elevating our spirits. Cooking itself can be a very therapeutic activity. The pattern of combining the ingredients, smell of the food, anticipation of waiting for it to cook. It’s all very satisfying. Plus, you get something yummy at the end! So, why not turn your kitchen into a haven of happiness?

To infuse more joy into your culinary adventures, try experimenting with fun recipes that not only tantalize your taste buds but also lift your spirits. Think about what ingredients you really like. Take out a piece of paper and write them down! Even categorize them if you so please. After you do that, try looking up some recipes with those specific ingredients. You can even make a little cookbook!

While we all love to try new recipes, sometimes we just have food that we have to eat. We all find ourselves with some lone vegetables in the fridge that we bought a bit ago. When you buy them, you have a cooking plan, and then you forget they exist. And many times, it can be hard to find recipes with ingredients that you already have at home. So, here are 17 things to do with leftover vegetables. And here are some other ways to use leftover vegetables. You kind of just use anything you have! 

As you embark on this culinary adventure, remember that the joy of food goes beyond taste. It’s about the experience of creating, sharing, and savoring every moment. So, gather your loved ones, whip up one of these delightful recipes, and let the happiness radiate around your table. Happy cooking!

Old Habits Die Hard: Identifying and Understanding Procrastination

Now that we have entered the new year, what better time to confront old patterns and habits. I’m sure we’ve all been in a situation where a looming deadline stays at the front of our minds, yet the task remains untouched. You just can’t bring yourself to do it. Procrastination pulls us into a cycle of delay, leaving us asking ourselves, “Why can’t I seem to take action before the very last minute?” It’s a frustrating dilemma that makes us feel like we are at the mercy of our own brains, unable to complete something we know we must. 

Before we even begin to discuss breaking down and overcoming procrastination, we must first understand it. Let’s first look at one of the biggest misconceptions about procrastination: procrastination is laziness. That statement could not be further from the truth. People often do not simply procrastinate because they are lazy and apathetic. Have you ever found yourself procrastinating on an important work task by completing something else that is more trivial? Essentially, procrastinating overwhelming work with tolerable or even enjoyable work? Many people desperately want to be productive but strongly dislike a specific task. To quench their need for perfectionism and efficiency, they avoid the hard-to-deal-with task by doing other things. Confronting why you feel an aversion to something is hard. Avoidance is much easier, at least for a little while. Eventually, your emotions and due date will catch up to you, leaving you emotionally vulnerable in a time-sensitive situation. Procrastination is not just a surface-level inability to work; it stems from a more deep-rooted place. 

It is essential to give yourself grace when confronting procrastination. Criticizing and being cruel to yourself will only make the problem worse. Try to understand why you might be procrastinating. It may be a fear of failure, a need for perfectionism, or a lack of emotion regulation strategies. Look within yourself and determine what thing(s) may be causing this behavior. The first step to overcoming something is identifying the root cause. You cannot merely start trying to force yourself to do work. The first step must be identifying why you, specifically, find yourself procrastinating. Here are some questions to ask yourself:

  1. What do I find myself procrastinating the most?
  2. What do I find myself doing instead of my most important work?
  3. What do I feel when assigned an overwhelming task?
  4. When are other situations where I feel those same emotions?
  5. Is there a connection between those two situations (Questions 3 and 4)? Why?

Try writing down the answers to these questions. Many times, writing things down helps us formulate our answers more cohesively. Look within yourself and try to identify the “why.” Maybe even ask a friend how they deal with overwhelming tasks. Talk through it with them. Try talking to a therapist about this issue. Remember that the journey of overcoming procrastination is different for everybody. Start this journey with self-compassion and a commitment to understanding the deepest parts of yourself.

10 Simple Habits to Brighten Your Life

As the new year begins, people make unrealistic goals difficult to implement in their daily lives. Many start off strong but set impractical standards for themselves, getting discouraged in the process. To combat this, let’s go over a list of 10 simple habits you can implement into your daily life to increase your happiness:

  1. Start the day with an affirmation: Start each morning with a personal affirmation or grateful thought. You can write it down or simply think of it! 
  2. Connect with friends: Hang out with the ones you love! Whether getting together for lunch or just sending them a quick text about your day, keeping in touch with people is extremely important to our mental health.
  3. Embrace exercise: I am not going to tell you to get on a strict gym routine. For many of us, that is just not practical. But adding some kind of physical activity into your daily routine can really boost your mood, along with helping your physical health. Maybe take your dog on a longer walk, stroll to the closest coffee shop, do some chores around the house. Anything to get your body up and moving. 
  4. Laugh often: As we have discussed on this blog, laughter is extremely beneficial for your physical and mental health. Watch a five-minute funny video. Maybe go see a comedy at the movie theater. Have a good laugh talking to your friend. Find any way you can make yourself have a good belly laugh!
  5. Indulge in a hobby: Think about what you like doing or want to learn, and go for it! Hobbies are a great way to have fun and keep your interests flowing. You might feel you do not have time for a hobby, but there are many ways to create practical hobbies. Maybe you like cleaning and organizing your house, cooking for your family, etc. Find mandatory household tasks you like and change your mindset on them! You can make anything a hobby!
  6. Stay hydrated: Drinking water is essential, and it is super easy once you remember to keep getting glasses. You can even buy one of those motivational water bottles to tell you when to drink throughout the day. 
  7. Keep learning: Even if you are not actively in school, it is important to keep engaging your mind and learning new things. You can try online courses, read books, watch movies, try new things, etc. There are tons of ways you can keep your mind engaged!
  8. Connect with Nature: Spending time outdoors is a great way to boost your mental health! You can go for a walk in nature or go to a nearby park. If you feel like you do not have time to do that, maybe do some work on a balcony or porch with fresh air. 
  9. Reflect on the day: Set aside a few minutes (or even just a few seconds!) to reflect on your accomplishments. Even if it is small, it is important to focus on positive experiences, achievements, moments of gratitude, and more. This will reinforce a positive mindset!
  10. Prioritize sleep: Prioritizing your sleep is one of the best things you can do for your happiness. Sleeping well and getting at least 7 hours per night is important. Many critical neural processes happen while you are sleeping. It is a great way to reset your brain and let yourself get some well-needed rest!

 

 

Remember to Relax!

I feel as though sometimes when I get too stressed or have too much on my plate, it feels better when I am reminded that I deserve to take some breaks to relax. So, for those that feel they are constantly working hard and feel a little run down, tired, exhausted, stressed, or anxious, I wanted to let you know that you too deserve to take a break! Stress can be a helpful tool in our motivation to do work and to do it efficiently, however, there is a certain point where stress can have adverse effects on us and blind us from truly getting to enjoy our lives. With too much stress, we may feel as though we cannot think straight or feel as though our lives are controlled by this feeling. Taking time out of your day to do what you enjoy doing, whether that be to take a walk or to watch a funny movie, can really give you a nice reset for your mind. It can allow your thoughts to get in order so that when you are done with your break and relaxation, it may feel easier to get work done efficiently. So, with this being said, allow time for yourself! You deserve a break and some relaxation to minimize stress and carry on with a more refreshed mindset!

 

 

Focus on the Positives!

Sometimes when we go through life, it can be easy to think of all the things that are going wrong or the things that are not working in our favor. It can be easy to resort to negative thoughts when looking at what is going on around us, giving us waves of anxiety and sadness that are not enjoyable to be in. A study from Harvard explains why we should break away from this and gives us a helpful tool to do so as well.  The study found that those that wrote about what they were grateful for compared to those that wrote about what irritated them or wrote about something that had affected them for a 10 week period were more optimistic and had a more positive outlook about their lives. This study has two implications. The first one is that it is important to remember what is good in our lives and to appreciate all the wonderful things about ourselves and others around us. In doing so, it can boost our happiness and allow us to not think so negatively. The other implication is the way we can practice this. Try to write down what you are thankful for from time to time in a journal, your notes, or a phone and see how your mood progresses as you start this exercise. Reflect on what is going well in your work, your relationships, your family, your friends, your interests, etc. Slowly we can train our minds to think more positively and be a more optimistic individual! 

 

 

 

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