Much of relationship ambivalence revolves around feelings of love. But love is just a perception about what you’re feeling. What’s helpful to ask is do you really like each other? Are you willing to give to each other unconditionally, at least for a while? With that said if there is something that should be changed, about yourself or about your partner, are you both willing to acknowledge it and make that change? Can you be partners in what it takes to make the change?