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Old Habits Die Hard: Overcoming Procrastination

In last month’s blog, we delved into the complexities of procrastination. We explored how procrastination is not merely a manifestation of laziness. In this month’s blog, we will shift our focus towards overcoming this common hurdle. Procrastination often operates on a deeper psychological level, making approaching the challenge with empathy and strategic solutions crucial. Below are some ways that you can confront this issue:

  1. Self-Reflection and Analysis: As we talked about last month, before delving into any strategies, continuing the self-exploration journey is essential (also continue this while you are implementing strategies!). Take a closer look at your answers to last month’s questions. Identify recurring themes and patterns. Is there a common emotion or circumstance triggering procrastination? Understanding the root cause is pivotal for forming solutions tailored to your unique behaviors.
  2. Break Down Tasks: Overwhelming tasks are a breeding ground for procrastination. It can feel scary to be staring at this massive, brooding task that you can’t even begin to think about, let alone complete. Combat this by breaking larger tasks into smaller, more manageable components. This makes the workload seem less daunting and provides a sense of accomplishment as you complete each subtask. When you complete a subtask, celebrate! No matter how small, that subtask is helping you reach your final goal. You’ll be done with the larger task in no time!
  3. Set Realistic Goals: Establish realistic goals and prioritize tasks based on importance and deadlines. This prevents the paralysis that often accompanies a lengthy to-do list. By focusing on one task at a time, you channel your energy more effectively and reduce the likelihood of procrastination. Have a calendar and to-do list (either physical or online) to do this! You can customize this schedule to whatever is most helpful for you. 
  4. Set Deadlines: Procrastination thrives in the absence of clear deadlines. Set specific, achievable deadlines for each task, and consider sharing these goals with a friend or colleague (check out January 2023’s blog on “SMART Goals” to get even more information about this!). 
  5. Cultivate a Growth Mindset: Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth rather than insurmountable obstacles. A shift in mindset can empower you to approach tasks positively, diminishing the fear of failure that often underlies procrastination.

Remember, overcoming procrastination is an ongoing process, and setbacks are a natural part of any journey. Approach yourself with compassion and celebrate small victories. If you brought yourself to complete the work assignment that you wanted to put off, celebrate that! You could even bake some cookies as a treat! By implementing these practical steps, you’re working on breaking free from procrastination and embracing a more fulfilling life.

Spread Cheer, Not Fear: 3 Fun and Harmless April Fool’s Day Pranks

April 1st, commonly known as April Fool’s Day, is a day filled with laughter and light-hearted pranks. It’s a time when playing a harmless joke can bring a smile to someone’s face and create a moment of joy. Here are some feel-good, non-hurtful pranks to celebrate the good values of this holiday:

april fool's prank

  1. Balloon Bonanza: Fill a colleague’s office with a few beautiful balloons. It’s visually spectacular, completely harmless, and sets the stage for a day full of smiles.
  2. Mouse Mystery: Place a small piece of tape over the sensor of a computer mouse. It’s a simple trick that will not harm you and is easy to fix, leaving both you and your colleague laughing.
  3. Soap That Won’t Lather: Cover a soap bar with clear nail polish and let it dry. When someone tries to use it, they’ll be puzzled about why it won’t sud up. It’s a harmless way to add a bit of confusion and laughter to their day.

Remember, April Fool’s Day aims to spread happiness, not distress. Keep your pranks light, easy to resolve, and always consider the other person’s feelings. It’s about sharing a laugh and enjoying the day together, reinforcing the bonds of friendship and community. So go ahead, spread cheer and enjoy the playful spirit of April 1st!

                                                                                      

Embracing Easter: Renewal, Hope, and Celebration

 

With Easter just around the corner, the air is filled with renewal and anticipation. While traditionally a Christian holiday, the essence of Easter transcends religious boundaries, offering valuable lessons for everyone, regardless of faith or belief. At its core, Easter embodies themes of rebirth, hope, and celebration. It’s a time to shed old habits and embrace new beginnings. Let’s go over some of the universal lessons we can learn this season: 

  1. Renewal: Just as nature bursts into life, Easter encourages us to embrace new beginnings. It’s a time to shed the old and welcome the fresh, be it habits, perspectives, or aspirations. 
  2. Hope: The core of Easter is hope. It reminds us that there is potential for joy and triumph after every hardship. By cultivating hope, we can navigate challenges with resilience and optimism.
  3. Joy: Easter is synonymous with joy. From children’s laughter on an egg hunt to the comfort of family gatherings, it’s a time to savor life’s simple pleasures. 
  4. Compassion: The holiday season often amplifies the spirit of giving and kindness. Extend compassion to those around you, understanding that everyone has struggles. Even small acts of kindness can significantly impact someone’s day!
  5. Community: Easter gatherings underscore the importance of community. In a world that can sometimes feel disconnected, coming together to celebrate reminds us of our shared humanity. 

Easter’s lessons are about nurturing growth, sustaining hope, finding joy, practicing compassion, and strengthening community ties. These principles are valuable year-round and offer a blueprint for a happier, more fulfilled life. As you navigate the days ahead, let the spirit of Easter inspire you to spread happiness and positivity, regardless of the season.

1000 Awesome Things Blog

In this blog, a man named Neil Pasricha simply writes about things that he finds to be awesome! It’s a very positive, feel-good blog that gets updated every week. In a world filled with challenges and uncertainties, Pasricha’s blog is a beacon of positivity, reminding us to find joy in the simple moments of life.

Neil Pasricha, a Canadian author and speaker, launched the “1000 Awesome Things” blog in 2008 as a personal project to combat his own struggles with depression and dissatisfaction. From the satisfying sound of a pencil scribbling on paper to the unexpected joy of finding money in your pocket, Pasricha’s blog highlights the beauty and wonder of everyday experiences. Through his keen observations and relatable anecdotes, he encourages readers to pause, appreciate, and savor the moments that bring happiness. And if you prefer a physical book instead of a website, he wrote two!

Let us strive to embrace everyday life’s awesomeness, find joy in the seemingly mundane, and cultivate a mindset of gratitude and positivity. Together, we can journey towards greater happiness and fulfillment, one awesome moment at a time.

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Finding Joy in Everyday Moments

Today, let’s enjoy the magic and joy in our everyday lives. Life is a series of moments, big and small, and finding joy in the little things can be a game-changer for our overall well-being. Here are some tips for finding happiness in everyday life:

  1. Embrace mindfulness and being in the moment
  2. Express gratitude and reflect daily on what you are thankful for.
  3. Find beauty in ordinary things and objects that you encounter. 
  4. Spread joy with acts of kindness, big or small. 
  5. Snap photos, jot down thoughts or create a journal to keep track of daily joyful moments.

In our lives, joy isn’t reserved for rare, monumental occasions. It’s constantly present. You just have to recognize it! 

Time Management Tips for Building a Happier You

Effective time management is difficult for a lot of us. And it’s not just about checking off tasks. It’s about creating space for joy and fulfillment. Let’s look at some ways to increase your daily time management in effective, simple ways:

  1. Daily Prioritizing: Start your day by identifying your top priorities. What truly matters to you? What are your goals for the day?
  2. The Power of ‘No’: Saying ‘no’ means prioritizing your time and energy. Be selective with your commitments, focusing on activities that align with your daily goals.
  3. Break Up Tasks: Tackle daunting tasks by breaking them into smaller, more manageable steps. And celebrate each small victory!
  4. Time Blocking: Allocate specific blocks of time to different activities. Whether it’s work or relaxation, this method ensures dedicated focus.
  5. Take Breaks: You won’t be as effective if you don’t take intentional breaks. If scheduling is your thing, schedule your breaks into your calendar! Make rules for what you can and cannot do (perhaps you want to be off your phone for this time). This time will help your brain rest and reset!
  6. Celebrate Progress: Embrace the beauty of progress. Each step forward, no matter how small, contributes to overall growth. Ten tiny steps is better than taking no steps.
  7. Reflect and Reset: Take a few moments each day to reflect on your morning goals, think about your daily achievements, and set intentions for tomorrow. This practice can help you end your day feeling accomplished and complete while also beginning to set goals for the next day.
 

                                                                   

Reclaiming Therapeutic Terminology: Clinical Versus Social Definitions

The average licensed master’s level social worker, professional counselor, or master’s level psychologist has been in school for at least six to seven years and possesses at least a bachelor’s and master’s degree, and completed supervised work experience. Not to mention they have prepared for, taken, and successfully passed the licensure exams in the state in which they reside. The average doctoral level licensed psychologist has gone to school for at least nine to eleven years, completed several unpaid and paid internship experiences and supervised clinical practice after graduation to become licensed, and passed the licensure exams. Professionals are trained to read, understand, and correctly interpret clinical scientifically valid research for the purpose of supporting interventions to effectively help clients and pass on knowledge.

Nearly four in ten adults in the population report symptoms of persistent anxiety and depression regularly and the number of children, teens, and adults who experience lasting stress, loneliness, and mental health symptoms is on the rise. Over twenty percent of the population takes some sort of prescription medication for a mental health treatment and only ten percent have sought or received counseling. This is compounded by economic hardships, financial instability, discrimination, inequality, and lack of access to clinical care. Exacerbated by the pandemic and political unrest, over ninety percent of the population feels that the United States and the world as a whole is in the midst of a mental health and overall identity crisis. Additionally, the mental health and related medical fields face tremendous rates of compassion fatigue, burnout, high turnover, and vicarious trauma that impact providers and lead to a high demand for care and a large clinician shortage.

As a result, people often turn to self-help books or gurus, social media professionals, and pop psychology that has permeated the zeitgeist and added therapeutic terms to the social lexicon. This creates both a dark storm cloud and a silver lining in the psychological field for professionals to reconcile within ourselves. The silver lining is we are destigmatizing mental health and openly talking about how it is okay not to be okay. People are asking for help and attempting vulnerability, and this promotes connection and reduces loneliness. However, the downside of this is that people are misusing research, therapeutic terms, or lack the understanding of complex psychological diagnoses. Professionals study for years to just begin to understand the complex human experience. Psychology diagnoses are complicated and nuanced and cannot be learned in one person’s lived experiences, self-help books, or social media TikTok posts. Terms like gaslighting, narcissistic, bipolar, and boundaries are commonly used to describe past relationships that ended. If this is in an attempt to understand, that can be great, but it is commonly used to justify or excuse your one’s choices while blaming another person.
Throwing around nuanced terms without accountability and self-reflection trivializes the genuine experiences of those people who have suffered from a mental health diagnosis. This has been a reoccurring problem since people began to use terms like OCD, ADHD, “crazy or schizo” to describe the quirky habits of themselves or another individual. Ask anyone who can assess for, diagnosis, treat, or has these conditions, and they will explain it can feel demeaning or disrespectful to throw around terms with very little understanding for people who genuinely see these disorders daily in their therapy room or real life. Most people are not OCD, ADHD, autistic, or narcissists, and using these words casually in a social context as if you know that is an accurate diagnosis can be problematic. Blog posts with the title like ‘ten traits of all people with ADHD’ have been found to rarely be scientifically supported and not every person can fit into a neat little box, not to mention these are not peer reviewed scientific studies. Even experienced clinicians will consult with colleagues and other professionals about diagnoses, assessments, and interventions to ensure we are diagnosing clients correctly, because of the associations with these labels.

And even if referring to yourself and not to others, consider not using words like “narcissistic,” or telling people you “disassociate” or are “OCD” or “so ADHD” – realize having heard these terms on social media or read about them, and even if you may see some similarities in your life, that is not the same as having a professional diagnosis. These are real symptoms and diagnoses, and the people that have honestly experienced this firsthand may feel more and more isolated and misunderstood when the public uses words like this casually.

Despite some of the professionals on social media or television being actual professionals or published authors with licensure, recognize not everyone is a licensed professional or actually working in the field they are proselytizing about to the masses. Always fact check things you hear and engage in critical thinking, and if you have to process complex personality nuances or past relationship baggage then work with a professional who can help you reconcile your perspective and self-reflect to prevent unhealthy patterns from continuing. This year, set an intention to choose your words carefully and instead of labeling or ‘armchair diagnosing’ a person or a problem or yourself, choose instead to recognize that doing that can ostracize and demean not only the mental health field, but the people that genuinely struggle with these real occurrences, and can limit the meaning of these psychological terms, minimizing the legitimate impact. Remember words are powerful, and it is important to use psychological words correctly and carefully, to support all who live with mental health diagnoses.

Building and Maintaining Resilience

Resilience is the ability to bounce back and thrive despite life’s challenges. It takes constant time and effort to build and maintain. Developing resilience is like building a solid foundation for happiness and well-being. You can’t always control life’s outcomes and difficulties. And resilience is a great skill to have during those hard times! We know resilience is essential, but how do we develop it? Here are some strategies: 

  1. Cultivate a Positive Mindset
  2. Build a Supportive Network
  3. Practice Self-Compassion
  4. Develop Healthy Coping Mechanisms
  5. Set Realistic Goals
  6. Embrace Change
  7. Learn from Adversity
  8. Maintain a Healthy Lifestyle

Resilience is a muscle that strengthens with practice. As you incorporate these strategies into your daily life, remember that setbacks are not the end of the road but rather stepping stones toward a more resilient future. You won’t have a perfect mindset right out of the gate. Give yourself grace and embrace optimism!

Laughter in the Chaos of Parenthood

Being a parent can be overwhelming and stressful. Parenthood is a rollercoaster of joy, chaos, and the unexpected. Sometimes, it gets difficult to remember the humor in parenting. So, let’s share a laugh together with some funny and relatable parenting stories that are sure to brighten your day!

  1. Bedtime Negotiations:
    1. Bedtime is a battlefield where pint-sized negotiators flex their negotiation skills. From requests for “just one more story” to the sudden need for a glass of water, bedtime becomes a strategic operation that often leaves parents chuckling at the creativity of their little bedtime diplomats.
  2. Toddler Fashion Statements:
    1. When it comes to fashion, toddlers have an unparalleled sense of style. Mismatched shoes, superhero capes with princess dresses – every day is a runway show. As parents, we learn to appreciate the uniqueness of their fashion choices, even if it means the occasional embarrassment at the grocery store.
  3. Accidental “Mom Code” Language:
    1. Parents develop a unique language, an unspoken “mom code.” From discussing bodily functions in public without batting an eye to using baby wipes for everything, this code unites parents worldwide. The camaraderie in sharing these quirky habits is a source of endless amusement.

Parenting is an adventure filled with laughter, and finding humor in the daily chaos can be a therapeutic remedy for stress. So, embrace the messiness! Remember: you’re not alone in this wild and wonderful journey.

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