When you bump into your friend at the grocery store, how do you treat them? You’re probably smiling just because you’re happy to see them. Maybe you ask them how they are and have a question about some important detail of their life. You probably maintain pretty good eye contact while you’re talking and your voice has genuine enthusiasm. All signs that you are glad to be with them in that moment. Now – how do you treat your significant other when you reunite at the end of the day? Do you have that same genuine curiosity, enthusiasm, and desire to engage? Do you make that consistent eye contact, smile as broadly, and focus on one of their important details? So often we get into small habits with our partner that maintain ease and convenience but not self-esteem or happiness. Try it tonight. Engage with your partner as you might someone else you’re not quite as intimate and comfortable with.