For Dr. Ellie Gottstein, effective couples counseling begins with exploring individual and shared histories and working together to identify shared goals to work towards together. Dr. Gottstein believes exploring difficult feelings and sitting with discomfort are challenging but necessary tools to use in order to work through longstanding relational patterns. Being open to growth through learning new ways of relating are vital for this process. She strives to be neutral while being empathetic and authentic with both parties in the dyad. Dr. Gottstein welcomes couples of all ethnicities, cultures, genders, and sexual orientations. Working towards shared goals is a challenge that Dr. Gottstein hopes to guide her couples through whatever comes their way including parenting, infidelity, grief, life transitions, and/or mental health concerns.