When we bottle our feelings and thoughts for extended periods of time, our overall well-being suffers. Sure there are instances in which we should probably bite our tongue, but that may not always be the case. Being assertive is a great way of recognizing that your needs matter, as much as anyone else’s needs. It also helps you achieve a sense of standing up for yourself and that feels good! So, what exactly is assertive communication? It is a form of communication in which you clearly and calmly express what you want without either being too passive or too aggressive. While assertive communication does not guarantee that your needs will be met, it can increase your chances and can also improve your relationship with others. Here are some things to keep in mind when communicating assertively: Use “I” statements in which you are clear and direct; describe how another person’s behaviors make you feel; and stick to what your feeling and thinking.