Dissatisfaction with the amount of sex in their relationship is a common problem that comes up in marriages and other long term intimate relationships. It is a commonly seen problem in couple’s therapy, probably because when there are problems in the relationship, amount of sex tends to decline. However, it’s important to point out lack of sex does not always mean there are other problems in the relationship. Couples who are quite happy with each other and all other aspects of their relationship can also struggle with this problem.
This dissatisfaction impacts the rest of the marriage or relationship. It always takes a toll in some sense. In couples who are happy with the rest of their relationship, it can still diminish their level of closeness, and they might become moody or slightly depressed. In couples who it is one of many problems, it can make the relationship seem very unsatisfactory and hopeless. When sex is good in a relationship, we like and tolerate each other a bit more because that sexual happiness spills over into the relationship. Likewise without it we can be less satisfied and more easily annoyed by our partners.
There is no magic number that can tell couples how often they should be having sex in order to be “normal.” Read More→
